“First-time father here. As a dude, and someone with basically zero-knowledge/experience of pregnancy or babies, the journey to becoming a dad was exciting, stressful, fulfilling, and at times kinda scary.
There are a ton of unknowns, some of which I was at least sort of aware of, and some of which I had no idea were even a thing until it came up. Having a doula appealed to both my wife and I, as it was one more person that we could ask questions and get advice from, and Jessica made it clear from our first meeting with her that she would be a part of our team, not the hospital’s or doctor’s. Our medical professionals were all great at what they did, but they often had different ideas on the seriousness of some challenges we faced, and at times it was hard to feel like we got a straight answer from them.
Jessica was a great resource for both information on our upcoming birth, and good questions to ask our providers that we hadn’t thought of ourselves. She came out to our home multiple times, and didn’t bat an eye at the fact that we live quite a ways outside of city limits. She helped us plan our whole birthing experience, from pre-packing and preparation, to labor and beyond, and even came out and visited us after the fact to make sure we were doing well with postpartum. From the father-to-be side of things, it was great having someone to help us decide what to bring, when labor is serious enough to actually head in to the hospital, and if an issue is actually worth worrying over or simply a minor hang-up.
The morning my wife started labor, if I had been making these choices uninformed, we would have gone in hours too early, with over half of the house jammed into our bags, and blood pressure that would rival a fire hose. Instead, Jessica came out in the morning, spent several hours with us, and kept us (mostly me) calm and collected. Because of her, we had just a few bags with everything we needed, and when we arrived the staff said my wife was at a great point in labor to come in. The remainder of our labor at the hospital passed smoothly and largely stress-free, thanks to the various positions and wraps that Jessica provided to ease this time, and she kept us both engaged, which really helped me to feel like a part of the process and not just an awkward bystander. Perhaps the thing that stands out most in my mind though, was towards the very end when our little girl was ready to come out. My wife was exhausted from laboring all day, and as the time to push came, she was momentarily overwhelmed from the pain and exertion (she chose to go drug free) and we hit a “wall”. It was so hard to see her hurting and feel like I couldn’t help, but Jessica was right there with a smile and words of encouragement. She got us through that last hurdle, and we welcomed our little girl into the world minutes later.
Jessica stayed with us for over an hour after the delivery, made sure we had all the things and comforts that we could want, and even took some great pictures of us right afterwards holding our baby for the first time. Because of Jessica’s knowledge and expertise, my wife had the mental preparation and encouragement to have the drug-free birth that she wanted, and I had the peace of mind throughout the labor and delivery that everything was going well. I would 100% recommend her to anyone looking for doula services, as she is a huge help to both future moms and future dads alike. Thanks again, Jessica!”